When we are throwing out the word multi-tasking a lot, we are just kidding ourselves. Even the person that you are talking to on the phone while you are typing and texting, can tell you aren’t present. Full presence feels very different from someone multi-tasking. In so many ways.
Distraction would be the first thing that shows up, followed by inattentive, using many pauses (eh? Huh? Umm) in their sentences. The longer we remain un-present, the more damage we do to the relationship we are trying to create or maintain. Even when you are in the same room or sitting next to someone having a conversation, the moment you begin scrolling through your phone, you have checked out and are only getting part of the conversation, and any suggestions you add to the issue being talked about are going to look like swiss cheese.
When we are distracted, we believe we can pick up on the conversation from bits and pieces, add what we have to, and still get it all done. This isn’t possible. That modality leaves us open to assumptions and turns off listening (which is MORE than 50% of conversation). We think we KNOW what someone is going to say, so we don’t have to listen fully and can scroll through just a few more pictures. It won’t matter how great the picture is when you find it, it won’t make up for the lack of attentiveness and the message that sends.
So, a good rule of thumb, if you are meeting a friend for coffee and conversation, leave your phone off the table (even better, mute it) and give them your full attention. You might even learn something new about them which is a real relationship builder. As long as the phone is on the table or in your hand, you are distracted. We actually have a chemical response of craving when our phone notifies us that we have a post, tweet, or email.
Building relationships, or maintaining an existing one takes the focus of our attention, intention, emotion, and intellect. To give it anything less is a waste of your and their time. By doing your personal work, you don’t ask friends and family to become your therapist and draw all the attention of the relationship to you.
If you have so much on your plate that you don’t know where to begin, an Energy Healing with RET session can help. Take the next step and clear your old thinking that triggers anger, frustration, and guilt. Keep your stress load. You can process this one session at a time or do a large chunk of work called an Immersion. In my practice, I have offered Immersion work for more than 25 years and observe that when clients are ready they can progress by leaps and bounds with Immersions of just a few days and sessions somewhere in the 8 to 12 number. Getting a lot of anxiety, stress, and fear off the plate, allows the body/mind connections to release and reframe and literally change how we see our life experience and get us out of overwhelm. Wake up the body’s natural processing techniques with Energy healing with Rapid Eye and it will turn on the body’s natural stress release and reframe process of REM sleep eye movement, blinking and breathing. Stress is fast becoming the number one reason for illness and even death.
Energy Healing Techniques including Rapid Eye Therapy, Reiki, polarity, imagery, and self-care tools assist you in clearing out the closet of what no longer serves you, sharpening your focus and resolving old stuck thinking that recreates ‘same stuff, different day’ over and over. Rapid Eye uses blinking, breathing and bilateral eye movement techniques to assist the body with processing its frightened parts.
Clear your stress, reawaken your natural REM sleep process (with RET) and live the life you desire. This drug-free modality will assist you in your journey safely, quickly and naturally. Processing your fear, pain, shame, and guilt will give you increased resilience to change, greater clarity and deeper insight.
Claudia Bianca, MRET shares more than 11,000 clinical hours and 30 years in Energy Healing Techniques. She has been seeing clients in Summit County since 2002.