Self-sabotage in all of its myriad of forms is one of the more devastating human conditions. When we get out of balance in our lives with too much or too little of something, we strive for equilibrium and will do just about anything to create that adrenaline rush to make us feel alive.

On average a person has 85,000 thoughts a day. We are free to think anything we want and that power is unlimited. Most of the thoughts we have today (90%) are the same thoughts we had yesterday – which is exactly how we recreate the same stuff over and over in our lives (SSDD syndrome).

So many things in life are confusing; it’s a good thing to have something so clearly visible for all to see. Physical and emotional pain is the language the body uses to let us know that something isn’t working.

Sometimes it is a challenge just knowing where to start…and communication can get stalled in the quickest ways. Petting a dog is communication. If we reach for a dog and quickly pull back, we startle ourselves and the dog. Then we have to begin again by calming ourselves and the dog.

All negative emotions are a signal of resistance to “What is” in the world. Sadness is resistance to Joy. Anger is resistance to Love. Depression is resistance to connection. What would it take to transform this resistance to resilience and involvement in life?

Knowing that if we are focused, we can accomplish anything – how do we stay on track with all the distractions (dis track shuns) readily available? First and foremost is realizing when we’re off-track.

We are constantly getting an abundance of what we believe we deserve and what we desire. In order to change what we are getting, we must first look at what we are sending.

On Valentine’s Day most are thinking of cards, flowers and chocolate. Let’s go to a different place this year. Why would we (humans) have love as one of our experiences in this life? Just to make us feel good? Just to make others feel good?